I know that feeling very well: "You don't know what you've missed." We all gain a lot while grappling with betrayal and pain. Yet, even then, wouldn't you give it all back if it were possible to have a wonderful relationship with the Other Person? Despite all the advances we make, despite all our accomplishments that The Other has missed out on, there is still something irreplaceable down there that we also continue to miss. Missing is a two-way street. That's what I found out.